- Give yourself time to grieve the loss: For some people a job is a major part of their identity, losing it is a major life changing event. Whether you loved your job or hated it, there are often many overwhelming and confusing emotions associated with the loss. Feelings can range from happiness or relief, to hurt, anger, or even feelings of worthlessness. It is common to feel many different emotions at the same time. Allow yourself to experience and work through the emotions, and come to terms with the situation.
- Get support: Find a support group, or create your own!! Getting together with other people going through the same things that you are can help you feel better about your situation, and give you a place to safely vent your frustrations.
- Utilize your resources: Your local workforce center is a great place to start. They often offer free workshops where you can learn more about the current job market, and get tips on resume writing. You may also be eligible for one of their programs, which can sometimes offer financial assistance, as well as money for taking classes at a local college or university. Contact your local resource center to find out more.
- Remember that your family is experiencing job loss too: Losing your job not only significantly changes your life, but it also changes the lives of those who are close to you. Often times families can be a source of support, but it is also pretty normal for major life changes to cause stress and conflict in relationships, keeping this in mind can help you navigate these changes more effectively.
- Schedule your time like you would if you were going to work: It’s easy to wake up for the day with great intentions of spending the whole day filling out applications and applying for jobs on-line; but let’s be honest, this task is overwhelming, and not always the most effective strategy! Set aside a specific amount of time for on-line job searches and filling out applications, make sure to schedule breaks, and incorporate other more creative job search techniques into your day.
- Build your network: Being without a job can easily lead to feelings of embarrassment or shame, especially when facing social situations where people are sure to ask you what you do for a living. Instead of shying away from social events, embrace them. This can be your opportunity to tell them what you are doing, let them know what kind of job you are looking for, that you are taking classes, volunteering, or even tell them about any projects you are doing around the house. Demonstrating to others that you are working hard even when you don’t have a 9-5 job demonstrates one of the most sought after qualities in an employee, good work ethic. Maybe they’ll think of you or even recommend you next time they learn of a job opening.
- Ask for help: If the stress of being without a job becomes overwhelming, you begin to have difficulty concentrating, a hard time enjoying things you used to, or the situation is causing conflict in your relationships, then it might be time to get additional help. Many therapists offer a free 30 minute consultation or a sliding fee scale. These services are designed to help clients find a therapist with whom they connect, and to ensure that counseling is available to all regardless of their financial situation.
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